The most difficult lie I have ever contended with is this: Life is a story about me. -Donald Miller
Our stories are as mere mirages out in the middle of a sun-scorched desert when they lack Jesus.
As the world turns, Jesus remains the one and only constant. Just as the story of so many loveless marriages go—they may look wonderful and happy—little do the onlookers know, it’s all a front. Conservative estimates sadly report a divorce rate in excess of sixty percent for second marriages and first ones don’t fare much better. Just like a marriage that’s all about the glitz and glamor of a fickle Eros love while it lacks true committed Agape love—our stories without Jesus are meaningless and devoid of any eternal substance.
Is it going to be our tombstone that tells the story of our lives? Will it be our relatives who get up at our funeral service and say what a good guy we were? Who’s not the most wonderful uncle at their own funeral? Is that going to be the legacy we leave after our few short years here? Our lives aren’t getting any longer you know. Who’s going to grateful if we had a brand new car every two years or four and a half bathrooms in our dream home, that is if we ever got our dream home. Who is going to care how much we scrounged up a hundred years from now? In the end it won’t matter if we were able to keep our string of annual trips to Florida alive.
What will make a difference when we are lying on our death-bed isn’t how many raises we received at work or how many books we had published. God has so much more in store for our lives than the size of our checkbooks or how many karats our wedding band supports.
Life is about something altogether different than what we have been told by the experts. The movie-stars and the famous don’t have what we think they have. The glitzy images plastered all over the magazine covers at the check-out are more times than not nothing more than a veneer finish for the plastic lives behind the million-dollar smiles. In a rather telling interview with 60 minutes earlier this year, mega-superstar quarterback and cover boy Tom Brady had this to say… Why do I have 3 ‘Super Bowl’ rings and still think there’s something out there for me? I mean maybe a lot of people would say ‘Hey man, this is what it is… I reached my goal, my dream, my life is…’ Me, I think, ‘God—there’s got to be more than this’. The interviewer, Steve Kroft, then asks, What’s the answer? To which Brady offers a simple, I wish I knew… I wish I knew.
Our small lives are swallowed up in the larger Story and even our dying becomes living when we follow Jesus, and things like Super Bowl rings are put into perspective. As my dad and I were having lunch not too long ago and got to talking about the life in Jesus we share—his comment was striking—You give up ‘everything’ to gain everything. The Apostle Paul wrote, Having ‘nothing’, having ‘it all’ .
Paul knew the paradox well. He may have had little by worldly standards, or he may have had much, but either way; it all was as nothing compared to the everything he had discovered in Jesus. Like a lopsided car deal, we get to trade our $100 beater in for a shiny new Rolls-Royce.
…I can’t tell you how much I long for you to enter this wide-open, spacious life. We didn’t fence you in. The smallness you feel comes from within you. Your lives aren’t small, but you’re living them in a small way. I’m speaking as plainly as I can and with great affection. Open up your lives. Live openly and expansively! -2 Corinthians 6:11-13
But we are so used to our $100 beater.
Why we drag our feet and are so hesitant to trade-in our miserable lives for the only life that is meaningful and satisfies is beyond me?
One clue just might be that we fail so often to see it’s never about us.